Last year I wrote about church, and how it’s not a place you’ll find me on Mother’s Day. That sentiment still rings true for me because Mother’s Day always lands on a Sunday, church day.
Church is usually an exciting, joyful experience, with this one exception.
I’ve just learned that for myself, I can’t handle the “mom talk” that pastors usually do on this day, so I skip it.
If this is your first Mother’s Day or your 40th without a mom, you might agree that it still hurts just as much. Even though it is a contrived holiday by the greeting card industry, it still makes us feel like we can’t contribute and that we are missing out when we don’t have a mom to buy a gift or a card for. Read More
I’m 25, so I am officially a quarter of a century old. I’ve started to feel the pressure that society puts on 20-somethings to get married, be successful, have children, own a home, and to achieve financial stability.
My parents were always major decision makers in my life, and looking back I think that shaped who I am and some of the things I struggle with currently. I have always been VERY indecisive and I haven’t really changed much in that regard since my parents’ passing. I’d still much rather let YOU make a decision, and let me know what to do. Read More
Death is tricky, and somewhat of a difficult thing to navigate as a friend of someone who’s suffered loss. Having been through loss myself, I have learned what is helpful and what is not, but if you’ve never experienced loss, you might not know how to help a grieving pal.
Looking back to losing my parents, it’s interesting to me how both instances felt similar even when family/friend support was different.
When I lost my dad I was 16, a junior in high school, and my needs were simple. I needed to feel safe and taken care of since my mom was out of town at the time, and I needed emotional and physical support until she could arrive to handle the situation. My dad’s death was sudden, and people had no time to prepare what they wanted to say to comfort me. Read More
Are you familiar with the story of Job in the Bible? No, cool because I’m about to summarize it no matter what.
In the book of Job, we see a man who endured many trials and spiritual attacks that we understand God to have allowed. Job is a prime example of faithfulness because he loses everything and still remains faithful to God. I believe the purpose of Job’s story is to illustrate God’s sovereignty and faithfulness during a time of suffering. Read More
You might have read my latest post about having to give up my childhood home once my parents passed away. It was a somewhat traumatic experience and I’d be doing a disservice if I sugarcoated it.
Here’s my attempt to let you in on what those moments were like and how I navigated through the process. Read More
When you lose a parent, I’ve learned that you lose so much more than the person.
When my dad died, my world was turned upside down emotionally, but I still had my mom. I also still had my comfort zone — my home.
When my mom died 5 years later, my younger brother and I were faced with the daunting reality that our home was “underwater,” and we couldn’t afford to keep it.
With my brother relocating to finish high school with family, and me off at college in a dorm, we began the process of saying goodbye to the home. Read More
Mother’s Day arrives at around the same time every year. It’s not like February 29th, it’s around every. single. year.
When my mom was living it was a day full of celebration. We would get her a pin corsage before church, have breakfast afterwards and then open gifts. She was mine to celebrate. My mom was more fun than I will probably ever be, and the most giving individual.
Which is why Mother’s Day is hard. I miss her.
But, it’s also no secret that holidays are tough in general after you lose someone. For me, some of these days are also coupled with the decision to not go to Church. Read More
At the age of sixteen I had no idea what I wanted out of life. My family was something I took for granted. I spent way too much time focusing on how many friends I wanted to have and not enough time thinking about who I wanted to become or what I was prioritizing.
Then October 4, 2007 came along. On what I thought would be a regular Thursday, my dad passed away suddenly in our laundry room at home. The culprit? A massive heart attack. My world was effectively shaken and with that I was forced to readjust my view on life. Family quickly became the number one thing for me. Read More
We are exposed daily to sexual images, innuendos, and conversations in our society. Whether we see them on TV, they come from people passing us on the street or even from our own family -- it’s inevitable and we can’t avoid it.
As someone in my early twenties, I admit that I was thrust into this sexually driven culture more rapidly when I began college. I attended a Christian university, but even a controlled environment like that was still subject to subliminal images and messages. Read More
When I moved from Florida to New Jersey this past year, I never thought that I would discover what I have. Growing up, all I knew was that I was Methodist. My family attended Methodist churches, and no one ever mentioned that my mom had a Jewish background. This year has been about discovering what I never knew, and learning the beauty of Judaism through a Christian lens.
One day last Spring I decided to go to a garage sale in the Orthodox Jewish community near my home. While there, I mentioned that I was curious to learn more about Judaism. The woman in charge listened to my story, and concluded with delight, “If your mother was Jewish, and your grandmother was Jewish, then YOU are Jewish.” Read More